Monday, May 4, 2009

Why are so many men bored with church? Part 1


Why are so many men bored with church?

Is it me or is our culture seriously lacking manly men who love Jesus, love their Bibles, and love God's church? Why is it that most men are dragged to church as little boys, abandon the church as young men either to never return or to be reluctantly dragged back by a nagging wife?

There seems to be a disconnect between those men who profess Jesus as Lord and savior with their mouths and their lives which bear little to any witness to following Christ, reading His word, and loving His church.

There is quite a bit of data available backing this up. For example, read the following statistics taken from an article written by David Marrow at CBN.com

"More than 90 percent of American men believe in God, and five out of six call themselves Christians. But only two out of six attend church on a given Sunday. The average man accepts the reality of Jesus Christ, but fails to see any value in going to church."

It is not just my imagination leading me to believe that there is a lack of passion in men when it comes to church attendance, love of the church, and participation in God's church, the bride of Christ. I have had the privilege of being in several volunteer ministry positions over the years and have noticed the following patterns:

1. Men are less consistent in their church attendance than their wives.
2. Men are less likely to serve in the church than their wives.
3. Men are less likely to volunteer to lead a small group or facilitate a discussion than their wives.
4. Some men attend only to appease their wives and to stop the nagging.

Here are some staggering numbers to think about.



• The typical U.S. Congregation draws an adult crowd that’s 61% female, 39% male. This gender gap shows up in all age categories.

• On any given Sunday there are 13 million more adult women than men in America’s churches.

• This Sunday almost 25 percent of married, churchgoing women will worship without their husbands.

• Midweek activities often draw 70 to 80 percent female participants.

• The majority of church employees are women (except for ordained clergy, who are overwhelmingly male).

• Over 70 percent of the boys who are being raised in church will abandon it during their teens and twenties. Many of these boys will never return.

• More than 90 percent of American men believe in God, and five out of six call themselves Christians. But only two out of six attend church on a given Sunday. The average man accepts the reality of Jesus Christ, but fails to see any value in going to church.


• Churches overseas report gender gaps of up to 9 women for every adult man in attendance.

• Christian universities are becoming convents. The typical Christian college in the U.S. enrolls almost 2 women for every 1 man.

• Fewer than 10% of U.S. churches are able to establish or maintain a vibrant men’s ministry.


information cited from www.churchformen.com

While we love women who love Jesus and we love women who love the church my question is....where are all the men and why are they so bored and disconnected from the church of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords?

Aren't men suppose to be the head of their households (Ephesians 5:23)? The pastor dads in their homes? The spiritual leaders for their wives and children (Deuteronomy 11:18-19)?

Won't we men stand before Jesus on the last day and give an account for all that was given to us as men to care for on behalf of God to include our money, time, possessions, and the people God surrounded us with including the spiritual health and welfare of our family (Romans 14:11-12)?

Here are several reasons why I believe many men are either bored with church or who don't see any value in attending church.

1. They have a distorted view of God.
2. They have a distorted view of the church.
3. They have a secret sin or secret sins in their life.
4. They don't enjoy reading.
5. They don't communicate and operate naturally in large settings.
6. They like action over words.
7. They aren't saved.
8. Some churches no longer rightly preach God's word connecting everything back to Jesus.

Over the next few articles I will address each of these points as we look together at why most men are bored with the church.

Please note that the above list is by no means an exhaustive list as there are many more contributing reasons as to why men are bored with the church...

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